Song of Songs 4:1, “You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words. Your eyes are like doves behind your veil. Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.”
Yesterday our Pastor gave a powerful sermon about Great Sex! Yeah I know many are saying, what are you guys talking about in that Church. We are talking about life and sex is a part of that. Too often Christians have been too nervous or ashamed to speak about sex and what the Bible says about it. Because of that we’ve let the world dictate to us and unfortunately our children, what sex is or should be. The result of that is a lot of negative consequences such as sexually transmitted diseases, teen pregnancy, abortions, self-esteem issues, etc. So today I wanted to share with you some of the teachings from that sermon.
The sermons the past few weeks have focused on Solomon’s Song of Songs from the Bible. Pastor’s lesson yesterday focused on what this book of the Bible shows us about God’s plan for sex. If you haven’t read this book of the bible I suggest you do. What I will share with you speaks about sex in the context of it taking place in a marriage between a husband and wife.
Sex was created by God to build the bond between a husband and wife, for us to enjoy it in that context. Genesis 2:24 (NLT), “This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” When we get outside of that we are moving away from what God intended for sex. My single followers out there, I know this is not what you wanted to hear. But the truth of the matter is every sexual encounter outside of the husband and wife relationship can be very destructive.
One of the key components discussed was the respect of each other as husband and wife being the key component in the bible when talking about love and lovemaking. You have to respect your husband or wife and their needs. It’s not just about you and what you want, even though sometimes the world makes us think that way. Your focus should be on pleasing that other person in a way that makes them feel special and loved. You don’t just focus on the physical act itself but on all that leads up to that.
There were four truths Pastor spoke about when it comes to having great sex in the marriage relationship.
- Great sex is affirming. It is a mutual admiration between the husband and wife. That affirmation is needed by both partners for them to each feel loved in the relationship. You have to let the other person know how much they mean to you and how you view them.
- Great sex is tender. Unfortunately we have allowed the world’s way of thinking about sex into our bedrooms. The thought that it’s not about the other person’s feelings it’s all about me and my needs is wrong. It should be a safe and secure environment for both people.
- Great sex is passionate. Don’t let the world fool you into thinking God wants married couples to be boring and not have fun in the bedroom. Sex between married couples should be fun and spontaneous.
- Great sex is holy. It is meant to be a spiritual event, something that connects us to that other person. Sex is not a one-time event like you can be led to believe. Every time you have sex a part of you goes with that other person and a part of them stays with you forever. There is no one-night stand.
For our marriage relationships to become all God intended them to be we have to invest in them. We have to invest the time in one another to keep the passion alive and to keep sex where it should be. The world rarely shows us or talks about all the negative consequences of sex outside of marriage. But those consequences are real. When performed in the proper context, sex is something we shouldn’t be ashamed of or afraid to discuss. God intended for married couples to have sex as a gift that would bring them even closer together and to keep the enemy from attacking us in this area. As it says in 1 Corinthians 7:5 (NLT), “Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
Truth In Love! ~ Chuck